Funerals and bereavement
We are really sorry that you have lost someone you love.
Let us help you to say goodbye in a special way.
The Lord is near to the broken hearted, Psalm 34:18
Arranging a Funeral
The first things you will need to do are to register their death and to decide upon a funeral director. There are several funeral director firms in Horsham. They will liaise with us over the times and type of service you would like.
Anyone living in Southwater may have a service at Southwater Parish Church, followed by either a burial or cremation. We can be with you at the crematorium if you wish.
Organising a Funeral Service
The Funeral service is personal and gives you time to reflect and give thanks for the life of the person as we commend them into God's tender care. We can remember the difference they have made to our lives, and how we were enriched through their love. It also gives space for us to remember that we too are mortal, and to find the strength and courage to live our lives accordingly.
As far as possible, it is as good for as many people as possible to take part in the service. They may share a reading or poem, or contribute to the tributes and memories that your loved one unique and special.
Music is also very important, and in addition to the organist, we are able to play music that is of special significance through the PA system. Although it is a really hard time to be arranging a funeral service, it can be a real help in coming to terms with the death of a loved one, and so making the service very special.
Light a candle
During that difficult time when you are arranging a funeral, you may wish to light a candle as you pray and ask God to watch over your loved one and your family as they grieve.
in the churchyard
After a burial, you may place a headstone on the grave. Legal guidelines do affect your choice of monument. Please read them carefully before making any application for a memorial or headstone.
Interment of Ashes in the churchyard
After a cremation, you may also choose to inter the ashes interred in our Garden of Remembrance at the west end of the Burial Ground.
Wherever you choose to inter the ashes, we can be there to help make it special and personal.
After the Funeral
It can take time for the reality of loss and bereavement to sink in. For many people, grieving does not start until after the funeral.
Often grief sets in when there is less support available. To help with this, we offer bereavement support where you can talk and be heard.
We have a Book of Remembrance (or Chantry Book) in our church. This book is used for Southwater people to remember their loved ones and to commemorate people who had a connection with Southwater. Anyone can apply for an entry to be made but we ask that the person remembered was connected with Southwater. This means (for example) they lived or worked in Southwater or their funeral was conducted here. Please contact Godfrey for details.
Names in the book for the anniversary month since they died are read out in prayers of intercession at the 10am service on the first Sunday of the month.
We also hold special services of hope and peace for the bereaved and the All Souls service each year when we remember those who have gone before us.
Last updated 10/2018