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Bereavement

We are really sorry that you have lost someone you love.  Here is a verse and a prayer that may help you:

The Lord is near to the broken hearted, Psalm 34:18

Lord you have taught us in Your word
That there is a time to speak and a time for silence.
As we thank you for the power of speech
We pray also for the grace of silence.
Make us as ready to listen to those who need
A sympathetic ear as we are to talk.
Amen

Arranging a Funeral

The first thing you will need to do is to decide upon a funeral director.  Two local firms are Freemans and Radmalls, both with offices in Horsham and family owned.  They will then liaise with us over the times and type of service you would like.

Anyone living in Southwater is able to have a service at Holy Innocents Church, followed by either a burial or cremation.  After a cremation, you also have the possibility of having the ashes interred in the memorial garden at the church.

Organising a Funeral Service

The Funeral service is a straightforward service, with time to reflect and give thanks for the life of the person, for the difference they have made to our lives, and how we were enrichd through their love.  It also gives space for us to remember that we too are mortal, and to find the strength and courage to live our lives accordingly.

As far as possible, it is as good for as many people as possible to take part in the service, whether by sharing a reading or poem, or contributing to the tributes and memories that are given.

Music is also very important, and in addition to the organist, we are able to play music that is of special significance through the PA system.  Although it is a really hard time to be arranging a funeral service, it can be a real help in coming to terms with the death of a loved one, and so making the service very special.

Burial in the churchyard

After a burial, you will want to put in place a headstone on the grave.   Although the church is the custodian of the churchyard, there are very clear guidelines laid down in law as to what may or not be placed upon a grave, and we do aim to uphold them.  Details of what is possible are in the enclosed leaflet.  Please do read it carefully before making any application for a memorial or headstone.

After the Funeral

It often takes a time for the reality of loss and bereavement to sink in, and for many people the grieving does not begin until after the funeral, and often at a time when there is less support immediately available.  To help with this, we have a special bereavement counsellor, who is someone to talk to, who will listen, understand and offer reassurance.  She is happy to visit you at home.  More details about this can be find on the enclosed leaflet, or by following the link to the bereavement support page.